Applies to all types of relationships
On the 4th of February 2004, Mark Zuckerberg launched Facebook from his Harvard dormitory room. Little did he know the epidemic that would sweep the globe. This epidemic brought: arguments, breakups, betrayal and a lack of communication.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not blaming Mark Zuckerberg for his genius idea; I’m blaming the millions of us that signed up in the first place. It seems to me that a lot of people forget that we have a ‘friends’ list that see exactly what we write. All it takes is one thing- you could be complimenting someone’s picture, or you may have added a cheeky wink at the end of a message and that’s enough to upset someone you care about. The same applies to tagged pictures – god that can lead you into some serious shit. Believe me I know what I’m talking about.
I don’t like Facebook because it gives me anxiety, if there’s anything I need to say then I’ll just text my friends I don’t need to make my life public. Thanks to Facebook I have stalking tendencies – so much so that I could be a professional spy. Unless you don’t have Facebook [you brilliant humans] then were all guilty of Facebook stalking. If I see something I’ll start to over think, which leaves me in a bad mood – then I have to come clean about Facebook stalking.
Despite all of this I still have Facebook but – HOWEVER I created a new profile to break off from the anxiety. I only have about 70 friends as opposed to the 534 on the other account.
Lack of communication/effort.
This probably does it the most to me. I hate not knowing where I stand with someone. It drives me crazy. People need to be appreciated; it’s not a difficult concept to understand. When one of my friends does something to show me how much I mean to them, it’s the best feeling. It doesn’t need to be constant because then you get into a routine. Try and avoid getting into routines with relationships because it can turn them into chores. It’s nice to surprise the people you care about.
If someone upsets me I have no problem telling them, otherwise keeping it in just makes it worse. Honesty may not always be nice but at least things get said. Why would I avoid telling someone soemthing that can prevent them from making the same mistake twice?.
Sometimes I forget the fact we can’t read minds. The the only way we can reflect how we feel is by saying and then showing it through our actions.
It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you have with someone, people will always need space. Space sounds scary but the truth is – you should never form deep attachments with people because we’re all going to die once you depend on someone to make you happy, things can always go wrong. I love my phone, it’s my baby and I will take it everywhere with me, including the toilet – but that doesn’t mean I’m constantly messaging everyone. If you message someone all the time – what happens when you see each other? What’s left to talk about?
One of the worst things we can do to the people we love is suffocate them. If someone doesn’t message back instantly – it doesn’t mean their ignoring us. If someone doesn’t have time to meet on the weekend – it doesn’t mean they’ve replaced us.
Think of our relationships like elastic bands, sometimes we need to pull away and have our own time, but then we come back together. Good elastic bands refuse to snap.
There are hundreds of things that can ruin relationships but these are my top three. Friendships take a long time to happen, so think about that before doing something that could ruin that. You never know how much someone means to you until there gone.